OUTFITS Reflections Summer

Things I’m feeling and Thinking

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I used to be a lot more willy nilly with my content. I didn’t have an editorial calendar and if I did, I sure didn’t stick to it. I barely did any planning, ever. I just flew by the seat of my pants. I barely knew what I was going to write about the next day much less next Tuesday.

But in the past year or so, I’ve really gotten my act together in an effort to create better (and more thought out) content for y’all. It might not look like it, but creating good quality content is H-A-R-D. It takes A LOT of planning and planning to plan (ha!) and sticking to the plan. Get my drift? So it’s a lot more organized and business-y (which I actually love and it’s less stress for me!) rather than the off-the-cusp shop I used to run (ha!). But all that to say, my point is that I hardly ever just sit-and-write what’s on my mind anymore. I miss that.

I miss writing without thinking. I miss writing without strategy, or without worrying about an organized structure or article flow. There’s definitely a place for organized, value-add content – don’t get me wrong. But I’m just going to switch things up today for old time’s sake! So instead of writing about how much I love these little ruffle sleeves (which I do!) and the flatform sneaker trend (diggin’ it), I’m going to talk about things on my mind – as if we were literally sitting together, catching up over a cup of coffee.

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A (very) Random List of Things I’m feeling slash thinking

And for the first time in a VERY long time, I’m not holding back – not even a little. If you don’t like what I’m saying, that’s fine. If you have something to say, comment below and join the conversation. If you think I’m being ungrateful or ridiculous – leave. I don’t mean to be harsh.

On Fashion Blogging in general

The (fashion) blogging world frustrates me. Maybe I can talk more on this later (I need some courage and maybe a glass of wine – ha). I’m scared to say how I really feel. Because I’m not sure I’m allowed to feel this way. But I’ll just say that it’s an interesting industry to navigate – especially on your own. The competition is fierce and it’s getting harder and harder to be “special” when there are 70 million other people doing the same thing, wearing the same clothes. Blah, I don’t know.

On boundaries

Sometimes it’s hard for me to know where to draw the line when it comes to figuring out what to share. Boundaries are hard enough as a normal (non-blogger) person, so I think it’s even harder when you’re sharing your life with the world. Like, when does sharing my struggles and bad-day-moments become to be too much or unprofessional? Which parts of my life should I keep totally private? When does a struggle or vulnerability become something I can share without being crippled by the feedback (or lack there of). It’s easy to share a struggle you’ve overcome it, but what about the ones that never go away? The ones that keep coming back and seem to be a constant thorn in your side?

On starting a new business

I haven’t told y’all about something that I’ve been working on for a bit. Well I actually haven’t even started “working” on it yet; instead, I’m just doing a bit of research. And talking about it. (I always talk about things a lot before doing something about it.) I’m thinking about starting another business. But I’m scared out of my mind. I’m scared for 389537257 reasons but mostly because – what if it fails? It totally could. And that’s probably also why I’m not ready to tell you. Because what if I change my mind? Ha. Anyway, so that’s been taking up a good bit of my brain space lately…oh, and time.

On putting myself out there

Sometimes I worry if you think I’m unstable. Not in a crazy person way (no offense), but in an inconsistent kind of way? You might have noticed, but I’m a bit of an extremist. One day I feel like I can (literally – sort of) take over the world. And then the next, I’m having major self-doubt about whether I can actually put together a cute outfit – I kid you not.

I’ve got ups and downs; highs and lows, exciting moments and major discouragement; I’m silly and serious; focused and all-over-the-place; determined and then apathetic – and the list goes on. I know that – to a certain extent – this is normal; we all feel these things and experience both sides of these spectrum. But I still feel like I’m a bit more extreme than most – just a thought. Also, I’m over here trying to figure out how to experience these extremes and be “real” with y’all, but also professional and maintain my authority and credibility if that makes sense? (Hard to explain.)

But my point is that sometimes I feel like I should only show you certain “parts” of me (in fact, I feel this way a lot). But when I try to do that, I feel confined and like I’m holding my breath or something (or being fake). So then I show you the real me. And it’s probably like, a lot to handle. I don’t know….is it too much? (HAHA)

On losing my fire

I’m in a funk. It’s been like 9-ish days and it’s still here. At first I thought it was a 2-day-or-so phase. But no; it’s still here and I don’t think it’s going anywhere – the funky-ness I mean. I sort of mentioned it on my Instagram on Monday night, but basically I’m feeling burnt out and a little blah. I question what I’m doing and why and wonder if my blog even has a purpose in the world. I know that sounds dramatic – but that’s because it is…at least to me. I feel like I need to be traveling or that my life isn’t interesting enough. But the truth is, I sorta like a boring life. If I’m being completely honest, I really like it when my life is boring. In fact, I get really excited when I have zero plans on a weekend and staying in the house for hours (or sometimes even days? don’t judge) at a time doesn’t bother me.

On accidentally becoming a “model” but not meaning to?

I’m also feeling a little weird about the fact that regardless of how I want to “frame” it, my job is sort of to be a…model? (kinda?) I don’t know how I feel about that. But no matter what way I look at it, that’s sort of what’s going on here. You know? And that’s kind of weird. And I don’t really like that. Because the truth is that I don’t do my hair and makeup everyday – but it looks like I do. When you look at my blog (or even Instagram) photos, I’m literally always all dolled up. Because I feel like I have to be. But do I? That’s the million dollar question. I don’t really know to be honest.

Outfit Details: Halogen Ruffle Sleeve T-shirt // JSlides Espadrille Sneaker // Gucci Mini Bag // COH Lyla Distressed Jeans

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  • Lily

    You’re amazing Brighton keep it up and don’t worry about what others are doing! Just be you and put out what you think is you!

  • Jalynn

    We all have these feelings, it is part of being human. You be you!! By the way you are making a difference.

  • Melissa Klusek

    Your personal posts like this are my favorites! I think a lot of us have thoughts along the same lines, even if we’re not doing what you’re doing. And as someone whose favorite weekends are ones with no plans where I can fall asleep at 10 on Friday night watching HGTV, I feel you! And on the boundaries, I’ve never been one to read someone’s blog or social media post where they’re talking about the struggles they’re going through and say “that’s not possible because her life is great.” The same struggles you go through are ones your readers go through too, and I personally keep coming back to the blogs that mix the personal with the practical (fashion, business tips, etc). It’s kind of like when Jennifer Lawrence tripped at those award shows, and spent red carpet time talking about food, everyone was like YESSS that would totally be me! I’d be in that gorgeous dress wondering when I could eat some french fries! haha

    The world we live in now is CRAZY! I’ve been working up the nerve to really dive into my business for over a year now, and it’s just scary! There are already SO many people out there doing what I want to do, it makes it so easy to feel like a fraud, and why there are VERY few people who actually know what my big dream is. I think that’s why it’s so important to find your tribe of people that really believe in you, so on those hard days when you feel like “what is even the point” they can encourage you and give you that push you need. I have to keep reminding MYSELF to go for it because I don’t want to look back in another year and be where I am right now and wish I had started then. So if you’re ever looking for someone to chat with about the struggles of starting a business- let me know :)

    This is my favorite blog to read, and I keep coming back because it really feels like you want to have a conversation with each of us rather than just “here’s this outfit, here’s where I got it and why I like it.” And while there is absolutely nothing wrong with that (!!), I love good outfit inspiration, I actually feel like we could sit down and chat and be friends in real life. So, as my fiance would say, “you do you, babe.” Keep sharing and being you- because it’s wonderful!

  • Rach

    Love love love this post girl! I love if you just spoke whatever is on your mind. And I’m on the same boat with ya on blogging and feeling burnt out. Keep doing you! :)

    http://www.rdsobsessions.com

  • Erin Patterson

    Thank you so much for sharing! I’ve been wondering where’ve you’ve been lately because I miss your fun insta stories and Snapchat stories! you may think you lead a boring life but I think you have a cool, fun and always changing life! My fiancé teases me that I treat you like a friend because I can’t wait to see what you’re doing next! I’m not a blogger so I can’t relate to the business side of that. But I do appreciate when you’re real and talk about your day and your highs and lows. I’ve been following your blog for 2-3 years now, and there have been times where I’ve laughed and cried with you. I love when you’re transparent and real and talk about your daily life, what you’re reading, cute outfits, your faith and so much more! I just think you’re awesome and amazing!

  • Monkey Puzzle

    I love you and enjoy and your blog, and look forward to it. I hope my words help, instead of heaping praise on your head, which is easy to do. I’m sure you have some “Yes” people around you. You asked a real question. So…here’s my take. I think it’s alright to share, to show your feelings, but there needs to be a “help” for others at the end of it. If sharing your feelings leads to an answer for you, that you learned from it and got something out of it. There is then a real purpose in it. That’s what you share. Rambling for the sake of rambling, isn’t a positive outcome. Thats what we share with our best friend, companion, spouse. If you can share a part of your life, with a positive ending/outcome, absolutely! We need more positivity! If it’s a negative outcome, how did you get through it? The question should be: Does this edify? Does it help someone? Does it build someone up? For example: Starting a new business is hard, your pitfalls and how you handled them is your learning experience & that would be a great share. That helps someone. I guess you have to decide if your sharing will be a benefit to someone, or it’s just about you. If you found a way through it, on the other end, that’s what you share. My struggles are mine, I share them when I can help someone else. If, at the end of my experience, there is an answer of how I got through it, that edifices. If not, it’s just a negative struggle. Share away, but share the stuff that will help others. It needs to edify, with an answer of how to do better. I see the focus of your blog about fashion & how to do better with your fashion choices. You wouldn’t take a photo of a bunch of wrinkled clothes, shoes and a purse, in a pile on the floor. You share the finished product. That’s what we need. Think of sharing that side of your life, how you did better. What did you do to get where you are. When you go through something and are on the other side of it, show your work, “the finished product”, the best “product” of your life. I hope my 2 cents helps.

  • Katie Smith

    Thank you for being real! That’s why I follow you. You never fail to be authentic and deliver good fashion sense.

  • mks43

    i think you’re not the only blogger out there thinking these thoughts, but you are probably the only one being real enough to share them! i got into blogs toward the end of last year, so i haven’t been a long-time reader, but i struggle with WHY i’m interested in certain blogs. some are aspirational (like i could never afford their lifestyle, but it’s fun to look at) and some are more real, like yours. honestly i keep coming here for the content as a whole. i love a good fashion post, and i know that’s how you got started, but i also love to hear the other stuff. i want to take something from the blogs i read besides “buy this and that and look at my fabulous life”. i have stopped reading some and following on instagram because i just felt like i was coveting what they had. i also feel like it’s so false to put a front on like nothing is hard just because you don’t have a “regular” 9-to-5 job. sometimes it’s easy on the outside to roll my eyes and think y’all have it easy, because you can set your own schedule and go on these fantastic trips… but then i think about how you always have to be “on”. you have to be open to sharing a lot on social media. you have to put so much out there that i can hide from when i’m having a bad day or a zit or just feeling crappy. you feel the pressure to keep producing content and posting and being happy, even when you’re in a funk. and i don’t think i could handle that. so it brings me back to reality that life isn’t always what it seems. the BASIS of blogging for everyone seems to be present the great stuff, your life always looks fabulous, great free stuff and trips and constantly shopping… but when it really gets down to it, of course that’s not how it is. i’ve loved hearing you say about your blog that you want to serve people. i’ve loved the house posts (thinking about first time buying in the next year or so and it petrifies me), i’ve loved your podcast posts, i’ve loved it when you just keep it real and call out on snapchat that you have a zit, instead of piling a ton of makeup on it and acting like you’re just having the best day ever. i do think as someone mentioned below that it helps when there’s a “lesson” or some kind of learning you can share. but i definitely can understand just wanting to vent sometimes. i vent a LOT in my daily life (to basically anyone who will listen) and sometimes feel like they just think i’m nuts. so you’re not alone in that at all! not sure if any of that helped, i just rambled a whole lot. but that was my very off-the-cuff response to your off-the-cuff post. don’t be discouraged! i think based on the comments you get that i see, people respond to you (especially when you keep it real and talk about your faith and real stuff). see where people respond and do more of that!

  • Erin

    I really enjoy reading the “real” posts like these. I struggle with the extremist thing too. Not necessarily in how I act, but in my head. I want to do everything and do everything well and live this exciting fabulous life, but then, just like you, I LOVE when my life is actually kind of boring. Ha! At least it’s nice to know other people go through similar things.

    Erin | http://www.rosewoodrunway.com

  • Ben O.

    Great post – very honest. I am a dallas photographer and I have been following your blog for years. I also follow other fashion bloggers (many in dallas and other all over the world) and from the outside looking in, I find the fashion blogging phenomenon fascinating and a little confusing at times. You are right that there are so many out there doing it and often times the “looks” and content seem to run together. This isn’t the fault of any one blogger, but it’s just simple math. Every once in awhile, there just aren’t any new exciting outfits or any new travel locations to post about. You can only tour your house so many times. Standing outside the gates of a local shop with great clothes and a latte isn’t as unique anymore. When once it seemed indie and almost like homegrown, grassroots fashion appreciation (the opposite of the polished, unrealistic professional modeling and fashion industry), now it’s so prevalent that it has become it’s own polished, unrealistic representation. The connection with people is with the “real”. Like this post. You are certainly one of the best – make no mistake about that. I found the comment about finding yourself as a model when you never thought of yourself as one, very telling. I bet this is all to common. Truth be told, you could be a model. You know clothes and you have a great look, but you are finding what I imagine most bloggers find out – you want to connect more with people and experience fashion and lifestyle the way it was in the beginning – not just stand there and post pictures of yourself in the next outfit. Many blogs that I follow experience these feelings and inevitably post about it. I have seen more than a few go through a transition and come out the other side as more of a lifestyle/family experience blog. It usually happens when they get pregnant and have that first child. Kids change everything, huh? Anyway, not sure I contributed anything here, but I felt compelled to post because I admire your blog very much (both for the fashion and for your honesty) and I hope you find the place you want to inhabit moving forward. Thanks for the insight.

  • Lorie Cox

    Adulting is hard and you have to take it on a day to day basis. You have those T-shirt and jean days-messy hair don’t care days and then you have the sleek dress up Gucci belt, black pants days. Those make you who you are and all sides of you captivate your followers. Just be real and keep doing what you are doing. I have learned to listen to that inner voice and when the funk has lasted a while, it might be time to shake things up a bit. That is a good thing. A higher power is telling you to go for it!! Whatever it is you do we will be here cheering you on!

  • Lauren

    I have been in a funk lately too, and that’s when my friend asked me how my quiet times with Jesus have been going…let’s just say it has not been consistent lately, and it became evident in pretty much all aspects of my life. If that has been the case for you too lately try to really intentionally set aside some time to spend in your Bible and in prayer. I think that could really help!

  • Layla Lee

    I love your genuine spirit and your honesty. To me – your Instagram/snapchat posts that aren’t contrived or scripted are the ones I enjoy most. I can look at similar outfits anywhere, but follow you because of your spirit and personality!

  • Rebekah

    Thank you for this post! It’s refreshing to see your honesty and humility because we all need that reminder. I think we are all out searching for something just a little better or different than what we have now so seeing you be honest bring that human element to your blog, which is what keeps me engaged in your content. When I get in a funk, I try to think of what I’d tell my best friend if she were me. Are you being as kind to yourself as you would to her? Trust me, it’s a continual struggle, but I try! Keep being you because that is why people value your blog!

  • This is incredible, Brighton! I could say so much about this post, but I’ll leave it as saying, “Everything happens for a reason.” You will find your spark again, if for blogging or not. You will figure everything out- you always do! Your blog has personally had an incredible positive impact on me and I appreciate your blog so much!

    Sweetly, Sally // http://www.sweetlysally.com

  • Mackenzie Praytor

    Hi Brighton! One of my favorite parts of your blog is that you come across as a real human – not an overly styled, perfect, always-super peppy Barbie doll. Please don’t take that statement as an insult or a slight – I think you are SO cute and positive and I absolutely use your blog as inspiration in many areas, but I am also so appreciative that you let us into the not-so-“instagrammable” parts of your life. I think ANY girl in her twenties has the extreme emotions that you discussed above. I know I do, and a lot of the times I feel like a crazy person that I can feel so many extreme emotions in such a short amount of time. Even just reading this blog post made me think “Okay, so maybe it isn’t just me! Maybe we all (even precious Brighton!) have a see-saw of confidence, courage, and thoughts on if we are going to be good enough!” This has been a super rambly post, but just know that I (for one!) am in your corner – business or no business, personal posts or no personal posts, funk or no funk. I’m pulling for Brighton the person, not just Brighton the brand. :) Praying for you, sis!

  • Absolutely adore this post. It’s so refreshing to hear what you’re really thinking and sorting through. I appreciate the honesty of all your points, but especially loved your thoughts on boundaries and on losing your fire and liking a boring life. I think you help paint the picture better for readers of what being a blogger is really like, and I think that’s so important because people have a false conception of it (easy, glamorous, fun, etc when it is those things but also pressure-filled, self-doubt inducing, confusing, hard, and sometimes just soul-sucking and it’s hard to navigate how to reconcile those two). I applaud you for all your hard work and for being forthcoming with all this, because I truly think that everyone experiences these thoughts in some capacity at some time or another and it’s nice knowing it’s normal.

    PS I seriously hope you follow through on the new business venture because I am excited for you! Don’t doubt yourself, just go for it, I know it will be amazing!

  • Meghan Buckner

    I truly appreciate your honesty and genuine nature. You are a light in this world, whether you know it or not. Your content touches my heart, gives me confidence, and for that I am forever grateful. Keep being you girl! God made you who you are for a reason and gave you this life for a reason. Live Loved in that truth.

  • Dana Leddy

    Love your candid voice and your honest thoughts – that in and of itself is rare in the blogger world. I still can’t get over how genuine you were when I met you in person. You be you, Brighton – I promise, we’ll all still be following you and supporting you…”dolled up” or not ;)

  • Hannah Crew

    Love how honest and real you are! I look forward to reading your posts and seeing life updates – its so refreshing to see how genuine you are via instagram/your blog – i love reading!

  • I sort of love this. I’ve had a post in drafts for FOREVER about when people stopped blogging for fun. It’s refreshing to see people step out of the business side and just be themselves every once in a while. I think it’s probably good for your readership as well: being relatable and real is what sets you apart from simply seeing outfits on a retail website, and it will certainly set you apart from the hoards of women who join blogging every day just to make a quick buck.

  • Sarah Edwards

    LOVE THIS! I used to follow a TON of blogs but they all started to read the same…buy this sassy dress & drink Margs with your friends on a Monday. It sounds like a great idea until you realize you have to work and tend to your real life. I appreciate every single “real Brighton” moment you share because you remind us that you’re an actual person wearing all the pretty clothes I wish I could afford & pull off. I now only read you and Dani Austin (thanks to you) and I don’t miss the other ones at all. Keep being you, Brighton!

  • Kaley

    I am so glad you posted this- it’s so real and honest. I never comment on blog posts (like, ever), but I just have to come out of the woodwork and say that you have been SO incredibly helpful to me since I found you a year ago. I have a major inability to pick out clothes for myself and shopping hardcore exhausts me and makes me want to curl up in a ball and die, so when I stumbled upon your blog I felt like I won the jackpot. I LOVVVVEEEE your look and so so appreciate that you show us how to dress well without spending a million dollars. I know that I can come to your blog, easily pick out a few things I like, order it, and done. I can’t tell you how big of a deal that is for me. THANK YOU. And your hair tutorials. Girl. You’ve saved me.

    Just wanted you to know that you are doing such great work for others, even if it may not feel like it sometimes. Thank you for everything you’ve done for me (and the rest of your readers!) xoxo

  • Abbey

    I love your personal blog posts – I really relate to them and you. Your outfits and clothes are fun but I truly gain inspiration and encouragement from blog posts like these! It makes me feel like we’re all figuring life out together.

  • Emily

    I love your posts! Your real content and honestly is what sets you apart from the rest of the blogging world. As just a normal “non-blogging” Instagrammer, sometimes it’s easy to get down about not having clothes as cool, travelling as much (in comparison to bloggers) etc… so that’s why I love how you keep it real and are relatable!!! I relate to so much of what you say:) — thanks for being brave enough to say them!

  • Oh my goodness, I could not love this post anymore than I do! First off, NO it’s not too much when you share details. In fact I’d much rather read a non-scripted post than one where the blogger is hiding pieces and looking extremely fake. As a {small} blogger I totally understanding the part of where you say it is so hard to figure out the blog world. I’m not just a fashion blogger but I’m always thinking, who is even going to read my little old blog here when there are millions of amazing girls out there doing a much better job. Ah, anyways thank you for being so transparent because I truly loved this post. Also, good luck with your new business!!!

  • Julie Claire Turner

    I’ve never commented before but wanted to today. This is so spot on – and possibly my favorite post you’ve ever posted!! I appreciate your honesty SO much. That’s what makes you so relatable. I’ll be praying that you find peace & feel comforted.

  • Virginia

    THANKS FOR SHARING! :)

  • I loved this post. I feel the same way about most of it although I’m in the place of starting a blog and trying to grow it but Idk where I want it to go. I’ve thought about the fact that I love fashion and dressing well but I spend too much on it and its not what life is all about really. And I don’t always like being in the pictures lol I like taking them. But I spend a ton of time reading blogs and looking at other peoples clothes and wanting what they have. I want to be content with where I’m at. Talk about life and the point of it. Although I don’t feel qualified as my life is a bit of a mess right now. lol I love that you’ve shared stuff about your faith on here btw! I’m a Christian as well. You are one of my favorite bloggers I’ve found and the one I’m most interested in emulating bc you feel real and genuine. LOVED your “day in the life” video! I hope this funk your going through goes away soon! That’s never fun :( I wish you lived in my neck of the woods and we could go get coffee! lol I’ll be praying for you and your new business venture!

  • Shelby Cutting

    Absolutely love your honesty in this! I have enjoyed so much following along your blogging journey. I appreciate how real you are and how interactive you are with your followers. I love walking through your days on Insta stories too! Like yesterday, when you just randomly decided to go through your bag, that was so fun!! It is never too much to share your feelings and be random with what you show us. I think you are one of the most real bloggers out there right now. I also do appreciate that you aren’t traveling 24/7 because that isn’t what most of your followers are able to do! It’s fun for me to see what you do day to day and see that side of blogging. I definitely understand how you could feel in a funk about blogging, but as someone who is trying to get a blog started, I always love seeing what you’re doing and feel very inspired.

  • Molly O’Connor

    Loved that you shared all your thoughts with such honesty! I just did this on my blog today and just like you, I feel like even when you’re being completely honest, you still have to hide so much…it’s definitely a hard world to be a part of, but don’t ever doubt that you have a purpose and that you’re making a difference! I love getting to see you be your true self and if someone doesn’t like that, you don’t want them to be a part of this journey anyways!

    http://www.mollyonthemoveblog.com

  • Kristen

    Ugh can we be BFFs? Like for real? I wanna hear what you reeeeallly think about fashion blogging ;). Keep your head up girlfriend.

  • Love these kinds of posts. You’re the best and I love that I feel like I actually know you more than just someone who has good clothes. :)

    Allie

  • Iyanu

    Your honesty is refreshing; I love when you posts things like this!

  • Tori Benick

    I love this whole post!

    You are so normal, in the best way. I’m right there with you in loving when life is boring and wanting to stay home for days, in the plural.

    I feel like it’s totally okay and fair to feel how you do and I’m positive you’re not alone.

    Kudos to you for being brave and putting this out there. Keep being true to you and you’ll find the way out of your funk soon ❤

  • Regarding your fear of starting your own business, I would advise you to keep all your dreams, plans, thoughts and ambitions between you and God, as I know you’re religious. No one has to know anything, unless you are ready to share when the timing is right for you.
    I think this is the best advice I ever got regarding my own dreams. I am not there yet, but I promise, it feels like my journey is progressing so much faster and in a better way when I keep everything for my self and in prayer, instead of talking with others and feeling insecure. Hope it helps, love your blog and this kind of posts, please continue <3

  • Love this post, Brighton! I love how honest and open you are in all of your blog posts, which makes you so relatable as it seems like you are talking to a friend over coffee in your posts! Can’t wait to see what you do with a potential new business- if you decide to do it, I know you’ll do amazing with it!

    xoxo,
    Katie
    chicincarolina.blogspot.com

  • Amanda Carignan

    Brighton – I cant explain to you how much I appreciate this post. About a year ago, I was feeling a little burnt out in my corporate position and told my boyfriend and close friends that I was going to start a blog. I mean, I LOVE fashion, beauty products, keeping up on trends, etc. and I feel like I have some information to share – so why not? But ALL of the things you listed above are why I never went forward with formally publicizing it. I was scared of feedback from those I personally know (which is silly, but real), I was scared of having to always be on my A-game (because I LOVE my days when I’m not dolled up or pretty) and when doing an industry analysis I realized just HOW busy the blogging market is.

    Just keep doing you. We’ll keep reading. And keep it as real as possible – your self-doubts and real life questions are what bring us back because we feel the same way.

  • veronabrit

    I feel like I could have written this post as a fellow blogger. You really hit the nail on the head. One thing I will say— I am tired of bloggers who don’t share anything at all about their lives. I know some people are really private, but at the same time, I want to feel like I connect with the bloggers whose blogs I read and that’s what I love about your blog and it’s the reason I share a lot of personal stuff on mine too. Life isn’t perfect, it’s full of ups and downs and it’s messy and I think it’s important to show that so we are more relatable and because it’s authentic. Keep on doing what you’re doing!

  • Michaela

    GIRL. So much of that resonated with me. Starting a new business (well, the planning and planning before the actual starting – ha), extremes, long funks that won’t go away. All I can say is that I usually follow bloggers just on insta, but I’ve actually stated reading your posts lately and I’ve been loving them so don’t stop being real and putting yourself out there! It’s so appreciated in this world where there’s so much pressure to always look & (pretend to) feel 100%.

  • susan p

    I am a new reader to fashion blogs and I love your style and find what you wear and think about fits right along with where I am in my life. I appreciate you and I love seeing how you put outfits together so I can see how I can go beyond my very safe outfits. It is fun and that is why I come back!

  • Sara Karlstad

    you definitely shouldn’t feel like you have to be fake or hold your breath when it comes to your followers/subscribers/fans – i normally watch your instagram stories as my main way of staying up to date with BTD (and then when i have time to sit down and read is when i visit your website) and i literally love watching you be real and just talk into the camera. i get so excited to see what you and your roommates are up to and i feel like you’re very good about doing that through instagram stories. also, don’t worry about your funk – i’ve been through so many and before you know it, there will be something new and exciting and you forgot you were even in your funk. mind over matter, if you don’t dwell on it, you’ll get past it more easily. also, having a “boring” life is totally fine, too! you don’t need to travel to be an interesting person to follow. sometimes it gets to be too much when bloggers are all over the place, you can’t keep up with them and you also can’t be inspired by what they’re doing if you’re someone who has a regular 9-5 office job and cannot travel. i feel like the point of what you do is to motivate other people to (in a sense) be like you (which sounds weird but is also totally natural at the same time); like trying your products you like, doing the activities you like to do, etc…and they can’t do that when you’re on a crazy trip to a tropical island. people LIKE “boring” and “normal.”

    anyways, just wanted to say that i think you’re in a great place and i like your content! although there’s always room for improvement in life for every single person, you’re doing very well where you are!

    – Sara

    http://www.journeyofsarajoelle.com

  • I really think this all comes down to comparison. Earlier this week, I heard from Robert Madu on this very topic and he was right, “Comparison will cloud the clarity of God’s call on your life.” and he ended his message with “All you gotta do is stay in your lane and keep your eyes on Jesus.” It’s like driving. If you look to the right or left (or even behind) you too long, you’ll end up crossing lanes. It’s why I don’t care what my content “looks like” as long as my voice is mine. Probably why I wrote a “current trends I hate” post, hahaha!

    Funny how I read your post about this today as I was trying to figure out what to write for tomorrow’s post. I love your honesty and transparency. Thanks for the inspiration, Brighton.

    She Sweats Diamonds

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