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23 Ways to Get Your Act Slash Life Together ASAP

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Between the recent purchase of my house, another birthday (I’m officially in my late 20s now, y’all!) and personal growth that came with 2016, getting my life together has been at the forefront of my mind. There are days when I feel so #adultish – like the other day when I bought a washer and dryer, and some days where I feel like I could be doing way more. Do y’all feel the same way?

I think part of it has to do with this transitional time in my life – someone once told me your late 20s are really the biggest shift in life for a lot of reasons. I definitely think I’m at a point where I’m craving a more stable, organized life that feels grown-up, but I know I have a ways to go – and I may never truly feel like I’ve got my “act together.”

After catching myself say this phrase time and time again, I decided it would be an interesting thought experiment to try and actually define what this “ideal” is that I’m comparing myself to or daydreaming about. Like, what does it actually mean to get slash have your life together anyway? It’s such an overused, broad term. It likely looks very different for every person, but I was up to the challenge of breaking it down and sharing my thoughts with y’all. As always, this is 200% up for discussion and in fact, I encourage you to weigh in via the comments below (please!).

Join me! Let’s get our lives together

When it comes to making changes, size doesn’t matter. The way I see it, something is better than nothing. And sometimes the smallest changes can make the biggest different in our lives. I got a little overwhelmed before/during writing this post as I tried to think about what it really means to “get your life together” but I decided to push through my perfectionist (have-to-have-it-ALL-amazing-before-I-press-publish) tendencies and forced myself to just write down what I could. Preaching to myself here – something (a mini blog post) is better than nothing at all (or sitting on this “draft” for months waiting for it to be fully comprehensive). Of course there’s more I could cover here, but these are the first few things I thought of – and things that would make me feel a little better about my life/situation right now. Plus, I’d love to hear your contributions to the list as well!

How to get your life together

Here are 23 actionable things you can do ASAP to get your life just a little bit more “together” – aka how to get your life together:

  1. Write things down. Better yet, get a notebook to carry around with you so you’ll have a place to write it. If you write “it” (all the things) down, you won’t have to stress about remembering it. Just make sure you’ve got it all in the same place.
  2. Simplify your to do list; learn how to separate the urgent from the important and prioritize.
  3. Go to bed 30 minutes earlier – try to go to sleep and wake up at the same time everyday next week (not counting the weekend of course lol).
  4. Embrace batch processing – set times to answer emails.
  5. Go to the dentist – yeah, just handle it. You should be going once every 6 months. I promise, it’s worth it.
  6. Quit hitting snooze – just set one alarm and put your phone on the other side of your bedroom. Snooze is a state of mind – don’t let yourself do it.
  7. Empty your inbox – grab some coffee, play some gangster rap and handle it. Oh, and unsubscribe from stupid stuff while you’re at it.
  8. Plan your meals for next week on Sunday (and do yourself a favor and go grocery shopping). Speaking of meal planning, did you see my announcement yesterday about the very first (of 6) BTD Meal Plan?! Do it with me y’all!
  9. Throw out expired food/stuff in your fridge and freezer. Check weekly.
  10. Deposit money in your savings account, like often.
  11. Check up on your retirement fund. Wait, you have one right?
  12. Review your last month’s expenditures (I could write a whole post about this one).
  13. Quit binge-watching Netflix (or at least give it up for a month or so while you pursue getting your sh*t together).
  14. Start taking care of your skin.
  15. Sort through your snail mail.
  16. Go paperless and put all your bills on autopay so you don’t have to pay monthly. Use the same card (like a CC for travel points if you can afford to pay it off each month).
  17. Clean out your purse.
  18. Sort through your socks and throw away the random singles.
  19. Stretch or go on a walk or something.
  20. Drink less soda. Sparkling water is what’s up. Or just water in general.
  21. Clean out your car and then wash it. While you’re at it, do you need to change the oil?
  22. Floss your teeth!!!
  23. Clean out your junk drawer in your desk/kitchen/etc.

Okay that’s all I got for y’all today – although I could go on. Gosh, posts like these seriously motivate me and I truly hope they do the same for you.

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Whatcha think?

I’m sure you’ve got some GEM of a tip to add to this list. PLEASE let us know! Maybe we can build like the “Get your life together 101” super list with these things plus all the things y’all list below.

For starters, think about which part of your life feels like it’s a #hotmess or falling apart. And then consider what needs to be done to fix it. Comment below with the”ideal” that you’re not doing (ha).

What have you done to get your life together? What does it mean to you? Where are you struggling? What would you like to see a blog post about? Talk to me, friends!

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40 Comments

  • Reply
    Tess_Sequins are the New Black
    January 18, 2017 at 2:31 pm

    I love all of these! Flossing is seriously so important :)
    xx Tess | Sequins are the New Black

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    Natalie Redman
    January 17, 2017 at 8:54 am

    Great tips! Thanks for sharing.

    http://www.upyourvlog.com

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    Em
    January 16, 2017 at 1:28 pm

    Love this post and how you have this sort of content on your blog! Def. have dedicated 2017 to getting more organized so this list is a good start to help keep things on track. :-)

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    lilian Tahmasian
    January 16, 2017 at 1:24 pm

    haha i love this! done, done & done!! :)

    http://www.liliantahmasian.com

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    MM
    January 14, 2017 at 9:03 pm

    Great post. I can relate to all of the points made. This year I’m trying to get away from planning/sticking to only what’s written in my planner from hour to hour and be more flexible. However a big part of 2017 for me is getting into a habit of having either a daily devotional, read scripture, have quiet time or all the above. If you feel comfortable sharing on this topic- I’d love to get some new ideas!

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    L
    January 14, 2017 at 8:29 pm

    I wish I could do all this, unfortunately I’m too sick to get my act together. Spend most my days at home or in bed resting due to pain. So that sucks, had to quite uni and now I wont be able to get a degree. if I can learn how to cope with the pain I might be able to work 50% of the time but I have no idea with what or where since nobody will hire a sick person without a degree.
    My dream is just to get my health back (which I can’t since its permanent for me what I suffer from) and then I can go on to get a job and get my own place and have a normal life.

    I think the writer of this post and the people commenting here should think one more time, I can promise most of you have your “Life together”. My dream is to stress about small things like you wrote on this post. I suffer from nerve pain 24/7, no surgery or medicine can fix this.

    Dont take your amazing lives from granted <3

    • Reply
      Kristen
      January 18, 2017 at 4:00 pm

      Hey there! Just wanted to say the same to you: Don’t YOU take YOUR amazing life for granted! Don’t feel sorry for yourself because you probably already have a lot of things to be thankful for! You will find something that works for you.

      On a sidenote about your career — Don’t know how you feel about grammar or punctuation but I’m looking into a career in transcript proofreading. It’s freelance work but you don’t need a formal degree and you can work from home. You just need the course to get into the field. Check it out, it’s proofreadanywhere.com.

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    Molly O'Connor
    January 14, 2017 at 5:53 pm

    LOVE THIS!! I feel like I’ve been trying to get my ish together for the longest time. Car details are always on everyone’s list, maybe I’ll finally wash my car tomorrow!

    http://www.mollyonthemoveblog.com

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    Helene Vlacho
    January 14, 2017 at 3:29 pm

    I could find my self in many of these actions. I have started 2017 focusing on being more organized in general, taking care of my body and mind and spending more time working on my blog. But your tips are so down to earth, helpful and yes, actionable.

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    Megan
    January 13, 2017 at 10:12 am

    I need to read this post like…daily. Already dreading doing some of them but so helpful! Great new post :)

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    Katie
    January 13, 2017 at 9:16 am

    LOVE this! One thing I committed to doing last year was waking up and having “me” time each morning, for like thirty minutes or sometimes (gasp!) a whole hour. It’s seriously the most amazing thing I’ve done for myself in years. I actually look forward to waking up now, because I know I’m about to have my coffee on the couch, with my blanket, and a book or the ipad. It’s quiet time that’s all M-I-N-E. I’m able to wake up slowly and leisurely, and review emails/to-do’s for the day, and get my game face on. It’s truly made such a difference in the rest of my day and I highly recommend! Trying to floss more too ;) ;)

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      Brighton Keller
      January 13, 2017 at 9:49 am

      wait. That sounds so amazing. I really should do that – reserve time and not mess with that time, letting myself enjoy it. But here’s my question, how do you keep from letting other stuff invade that time? I tend to sacrifice the “me” things for the urgent or for hitting snooze again! And I tend to think that I can “afford” to let MYSELF down (as opposed to work, others, etc.) – know what I mean?

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    KT
    January 13, 2017 at 2:50 am

    In response to unsubscribing from emails- I’d suggest using Unroll.me. It consolidates all of your subscriptions and lets you unsubscribe at once. Makes my inbox much less stressful :).

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    Danielle
    January 12, 2017 at 10:08 pm

    Love love this post! It couldn’t of have came at a better time! I have also officially joined the ‘late 20s’ club and I thought my life was going to be over (a little dramatic 😩). I seriously thought I would have my life together by now and that’s what stressed me out the most. I’m starting to learn to quit comparing myself to others and just do me! Adulting sucks sometimes, but this list will definitely help me quit procrastinating and get stuff done! ☺️

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      Brighton Keller
      January 13, 2017 at 9:52 am

      yes, Adulting sucks. But DUDE. you know what really S-U-C-K-S? The comparison game. And yeah, I mean i know that sucks but the worst part is how it makes you feel AND THEN how it totally dampens what you’ve got going on for yourself (that your old self would have thought was awesome) – you know? I wish it were easier to control. Like, I wish there was a way to actually avoid comparing but unfortunately it just seems to follow me everywhere and be a part of life. I guess part of growing up is also learning how to manage those urges to compare or to keep scrolling or “letting” your mind go there if that makes sense?

      and yes, to your point on thinking you’d have your life together by now – I 100% thought I’d be married and on baby no. 2 by now. Not necessarily bc that’s what I wanted the most (I wanted to work on wall street actually), but because that’s where my mom was when she was 27. lol. So think I just assumed that’s (at least sort of) where I’d be at this age too!

      thanks for commenting, Danielle!

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    Caitlin
    January 12, 2017 at 4:10 pm

    You are KILLING 2017, Brighton!! Your posts have been so great + you’re so dang relatable. Thank you for being a transparent blogger!!

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      Brighton Keller
      January 13, 2017 at 9:54 am

      omg, thank you. But the truth is, I’m working my ASS off. Like, maybe a little too much? So although it may look like I’m killing it (and I fully welcome those compliments and encouragement hahah), I’m also not doing the work-life balance thing very well. Somethings always gotta give, huh?

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    mks43
    January 12, 2017 at 4:04 pm

    perfect list! i think sleep is one of the things that i neglect often (thanks, Netflix!) but in general, when i get enough of it, it makes me feel more “together” and better overall. i’m doing a major closet cleanout/purge of the house at the beginning of the year to set the tone and make me feel less cluttered/anxious.

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      Brighton Keller
      January 13, 2017 at 9:59 am

      yeahhhh dude sleep is like my No. 1 issue for me right now! and omg same – when I get enough sleep, I feel like I can do anything! and when I don’t get enough sleep, I have this mentality of “lemme just get through the day” and I HATE THAT!! Cheers to going to bed earlier next week!

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    how2wearit.com
    January 12, 2017 at 3:49 pm

    It’s not just you .. I’m in the same boat! Turning 28 next week and single .. meanwhile, I have 1 friend engaged, 1 getting married in 2 months, and another pregnant. Just when I think I have it together I realize I have so much more to learn! This was a great list to help me get motivated to do just that!

    -Morgan
    How 2 Wear It [] http://how2wearit.com

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    Amber
    January 12, 2017 at 3:36 pm

    Love this! Definitely a great list to get myself in gear in 2017! I definitely feel that “late 20s, craving a stable life” thing. Sometimes I feel super grown up, and then other times I wonder if I’ll ever feel like an adult haha

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    Trielle Chatham
    January 12, 2017 at 1:26 pm

    First week of school and I’m so excited to do some of these things. I’ve already been waking up at a …. similar time everyday. Next week I bring in the workout plan! One of my new year’s resolutions is to eat out less. But I LOVE eating out thoughts?

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    Kristen
    January 12, 2017 at 12:32 pm

    Well this post just put me in check hahaha I think I said ‘Need to do that…and that..and that’ on 20 of those!

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    Kaitlin
    January 12, 2017 at 12:31 pm

    Something I’m working on is “saying no to more and yes to less”!! By nature, I’m a planner, and tend to fill up my calendar WEEKS (literally) in advance – I really, reallllyyyy want to practice not making myself soooo busy!

    – Kaitlin
    kedgotwed.com

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    Emma T
    January 12, 2017 at 12:17 pm

    These are REALLY good ideas and must of the are pretty simple, yet life-changing! THX!!

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    Laura Furr Mericas
    January 12, 2017 at 11:32 am

    Thanks for sharing, Brighton!! This is so great. I got a new notebook as a stocking stuffer this year and have been caring it around making separate to do lists for work and life. I’ve realized that if I don’t start my day with a to do list I just flounder throughout the day! But omg I HAVE to stop watching Netflix and be a real person at some point.

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    Katie
    January 12, 2017 at 10:01 am

    “12. Review your last month’s expenditures (I could write a whole post about this one)” –> yes, please write a post about this!! :)

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      Brighton Keller
      January 12, 2017 at 10:52 am

      lol should I? hahaahha. so true though…

      I avoid this SO BAD. like I hate seeing how much I spent on UBER EATS OMG

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        Sarah Newsome
        January 12, 2017 at 11:34 am

        I’m mentally preparing myself for when Ben and I share a bank account…and a Mint account. Pay no attention to all those Madewell charges!!! Or the amount I spend at Whole Foods every week.

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    Whitney West
    January 12, 2017 at 9:54 am

    Love this list! It’s got me ready to tackle things this weekend. I would love to see a post about getting your finances in order in your 20s.

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      Brighton Keller
      January 12, 2017 at 10:52 am

      woohoo! get it girl! happy getting-life-together-ness! okay that’s a great idea – I’ll add that to my (fun!) and ever-growing list!

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    Hannah Brown
    January 12, 2017 at 9:36 am

    This might be just me, but I always feel like a brand new person when my dresser drawers are organized. It doesn’t take a long time to do and it makes SUCH a difference when you’re trying to find the right t-shirt or leggings, OR when you’re folding and putting away clean laundry. Sidenote: rolling my t-shirts instead of folding was a gamechanger. Just saying. I loved the list! Thanks!

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      Brighton Keller
      January 12, 2017 at 9:39 am

      do you keep your t-shirts rolled up in the drawer? hmm I’ve actually never done this! gosh i sort of wish i could see a photo of your closet…lol

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        Hannah Brown
        January 12, 2017 at 9:55 am

        I found a video that shows exactly how I roll them! I actually have so many t-shirts (thanks sorority) that I have 2 layers of rolled shirts, but I can fit so many more shirts in my drawer and it stays SO much neater than it used to. It’s seriously one of the best (and easiest) changes I made.
        http://www.purewow.com/home/Save-Drawer-Space-by-Rolling-Your-Shirts

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          Brighton Keller
          January 12, 2017 at 10:53 am

          omg thanks so much for responding and attaching the link, Hannah! You’re the bestest! Can’t wait to check this out and get my t-shirts in order!

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      Krystine N
      January 15, 2017 at 4:05 pm

      Seconded! I use the KonMari method (see: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up) to fold everything in drawers. I hang up my t-shirts, but fold all my undies, pajamas, camisoles/tanks, jeans, shorts, skirts, workout clothes, etc. It makes my drawers look so pretty and I never have to worry about mismatched socks or not being able to find a certain item!

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    Rach
    January 12, 2017 at 9:27 am

    Your list is spot on! Those are things you don’t realize that would help make life feel all put together (and lead to happiness and less stressful life). I decided to just organized my bathroom drawers and boy do I feel like I have it all haha!

    http://www.rdsobsessions.com

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      Brighton Keller
      January 12, 2017 at 9:39 am

      omg I bet that made a HUGE Difference! one of my best friends helped me do that in my old house and it made a HUGEEEEE difference. Like, amazing. Now I jsut need to get settled into my new one lol

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    Mackenzie Praytor
    January 12, 2017 at 8:56 am

    My #1 productivity hack is to take a long bubble bath on Sunday evenings and while I’m soaking, make a list of everything I need/would like to get done for the week. I pick the 3-4 toughest/most important tasks and assign them to different days, then spread the rest of the little tasks throughout the week so I’m not overloaded on any particular day. I know this may not be for everyone but I love systems and writing things down, and I love having a plan for each day to springboard the rest of my to-do’s. It has been such a game changer for me!

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      Brighton Keller
      January 12, 2017 at 9:38 am

      wait MAckenzie! that’s actually brilliant. because odds are youre going to be sitting there trying to relax and think of all these things anyway – so why not be intentional about it! I love THAT! It’s like a scheduled brain-dumping session with yourself weekly – and in a bubble bath too. I’m going to try this for sure!!

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