Self - December 17, 2022
How and Why to Do a Self-Assessment of Your Life [Free Download!]
Can we take a collective moment to panic over the fact that Christmas Eve is ONE WEEK AWAY!? I hope y’all are more squared away than I am. I’ve still got tons of shopping left to do (hello, Amazon Prime).
This holiday season has felt so different than last year. Last Christmas, I wasn’t even pregnant yet, and this year, we’ve got Blake in our lives. It’s truly wild how much can change in a year!
I feel like this year I’m more excited than ever to do a self-assessment. They say your priorities change a lot when you become a parent, but I’d argue they’ve changed even more by becoming a parent of TWO. Yes, I had to shift my mindset around work and my personal time a lot when Four was born, but now that Blake is here, I feel like there’s just less time to do everything.
Because of that, I’m finding that I have to be way more intentional with my time. I can’t wait to review the past year and prioritize what’s really important for me in 2023.
I’ve been doing this annual review for years now (I originally wrote this post in 2017!), and my biggest recommendation for someone doing it for the first time is this: Think back to where you were in January 2022. What would you tell that version of yourself from the present day?
In January 2022, I was stressing about the thought of getting pregnant/not getting pregnant again. My pregnancy and delivery with Four were so stressful that I had a lot of anxiety around doing it again. Now that I’m through it to the other side, I’d tell my 2022 self that everything is going to be okay. You will have a BEAUTIFUL baby girl in a year and this anxiety will feel like a distant memory — I might leave out the part about the chaotic labor story though. ;)
I want to walk you through exactly how I do this self-assessment so you can do your own along with me. I’ve even included a four-part worksheet that will guide you through the various steps of the exercise. You can download the worksheet below! But be sure to keep reading for more info on how to do your own annual review.
No matter what 2022 looked like for you, it’s important to take a step back and reflect on everything that happened. Even if the outcome wasn’t what you expected or you didn’t reach your goals, you need to evaluate where you’re coming from so that you can determine where you want to go.
Maybe 2022 was a super successful year for you. That’s great! Now find out what what worked well and challenge yourself to think about how you can improve even when you’re winning. There’s always something to learn and improve upon. THAT’S what is going to really put you on the fast track. Plus, you want to make sure you’re attributing your success to the right drivers. And I think figuring this out is often what separates being good from being great.
When we thoughtfully study the past, we find clarity. And with clarity, you can gather insights to guide your decision-making process for what to do in the future — what to change, what to focus less on, etc.
Conducting a Self-Assessment: Why Should You Do One?
We all have our areas of improvement, and usually, around this time of year, that happens in the form of goals and resolutions. Both are great, but it’s pretty hard to make a goal and expect to make changes without understanding WHY you want those changes and HOW you work as an individual.
Doing a full self-assessment brings you to the core of your goals and reveals who you are as a person and how you operate. It’s grounding you and your goals and turning them into something concrete that you’ll actually be able to obtain. Plus, it’s honestly incredibly refreshing to really feel in touch with yourself. It’s a way to open up your soul and brain and get to know yourself a bit more. Seriously, it’s cool!
How & Where Do I Even Begin?
There are probably a million ways to conduct a self-assessment and to be honest, mine looked like tons of scribbles in a notebook that was eventually compiled onto a whiteboard (my fave). And then recompiled onto Evernote as it evolved. But I wanted to put something together to guide you through yours.
The thing about self-reflection is that we probably all want to do it (because it sounds amazing, duh), but knowing HOW is the hard part — at least it was for me. Before we can even look at the data and view our tendencies, we must come up with that data. I’ve created a free download to help guide you through the process! Or if you’d rather just read through the questions here, just keep scrolling. Either way, I hope it gets you thinking!
Self-Assessment Walk Through Questions
Personal – Successes
- Personal accomplishment that made you feel best in 2022?
- What aspect of it made it feel so good?
- Did you do it for yourself or others? Was it attached to a moral?
- Did you feel completely satisfied with it when it was over?
List 5 other accomplishments over the last year and follow suit with the questions to get to the bottom of why these PERSONAL accomplishments meant so much or had a lasting positive effect. Consider areas of your life such as health, fitness, emotions, spirituality, fun, travel, lifestyle, etc.
Personal – Failures
- List 3-5 personal experiences that made you feel the worst in 2022? Then consider, what aspect of them made it FEEL so bad?
- Were these experiences/failures things you could have controlled? If so, have you identified any lessons you can learn from the experiences? List what you learned for each and how you can implement or take action on it to improve your experience next time.
- Think about WHY these experiences affected you so much? Consider how the experience is influenced by your personal values, desires, and expectations of life.
Personal – Growth
- What’s a dream or desire of yours that you have yet to accomplish? Or what do you fantasize about when you think of a “better” version of yourself? What do you feel is missing from your life? If you had to imagine your BEST self, what would she/he look like? How would she/he spend her/his time? Do your actions reflect these beliefs in your own life?
- What’s something that you constantly think about improving but don’t? Why? What could you start doing today to get closer to whatever it is? What could you eliminate? What’s your bucket list? Can you do something to cross one of those things off in 2022? Can you start planning for it right now? Why are the items important to you? Are you doing them for yourself or others? Or because they seem like they should be on your bucket list?
- What are your STRENGTHS? We’re digging into strengths specifically for your career, so consider other aspects of your life and personal characteristics such as follow through, tenacity, social skills, communication skills, thoughtfulness, compassion, patience, enthusiasm, creativity, trustworthiness, honesty, engaging, dedication, analytical, curious, etc.
- What are your WEAKNESSES? What are your biggest distractions from being your best self? Consider things like your focus, commitment, fear of missing out, listening skills, follow through, ability to balance multiples pressures, response to pressure, procrastination, articulation, communication and interpersonal skills, confrontation, admitting fault, etc.
- What aspect of your job do you like? What about your job do you find most satisfying? What excites you about it? What makes you feel productive and like you’re getting a lot done?
- What aspect(s) of your job do you dislike the most? Specifically, what tasks do you not like doing? (List 3-5 things you can’t stand doing or that lead to procrastination.) Can you delegate those or move them closer to something you like doing (by changing how they’re done or the experience you have when doing them?)
- What is the culture, value system, and mission statement of your current company/employer? Does your personality match up with the tasks and culture of the company? Why or why not?
- Do you feel empowered in your job? Why or why not? Do you see how the work you do makes a difference to the success of the company? Do you feel passionate about making that difference? Why or why not?
- List any specific accomplishments or positive feedback you received over the past year. Review emails, projects, memos, or your calendar to trigger your memory – I suggest going through each month and breaking it down by project or milestone. Which strengths of yours attributed to those wins? What makes you different than others on your team or in your office (or in your industry)? How can you better focus on your strengths?
- What are your biggest struggles at work? In other words, which tasks take you longer and feel less productive? Is there a way to delegate or shift responsibility so you can focus on your strengths? It’s much more productive to do what you’re good at (and spend more time doing that) than try to FORCE or FIX something that is a weakness. We all bring something different to the table.
- Name the people in your life that you enjoy seeing (and rarely cancel on).
- Name the people in your life that you don’t feel your best around (or usually want to cancel on).
- Why are you still hanging out with people from the above question? It’s likely out of guilt, loyalty, or worries that they’re cool or that they give value to some ego part of your life when they likely don’t. What would happen if you cut them from your life? Is it so bad? Why aren’t you hanging out with the people from the first question more? How can you prioritize them better into your schedule? Make a commitment to doing so and be specific about when you will do it, ideas for WHAT y’all will do together, and how you can spend more time with them.
- Who in your life do you respect the most? What aspects do you respect? How can you pick up some of those aspects in your own life?
- How do you feel about your current financial situation? Overwhelmed? Confident? Consider your overall income and lifestyle expenses in relation to your spending, budgeting, and savings for the short and long term.
- Consider your income: This will depend on whether you’re an employee or an entrepreneur, but reflect on how your income affects your lifestyle and/or whether you feel like it’s holding you back.
- Consider short- and long-term savings: Contributing to your short and long-term savings is usually closely tied to your commitment to budgeting or consistently setting money aside. List the things you ARE saving for and those you want to START saving for. Consider retirement, home ownership, personal investments, taxes, travel & vacation, gifts for others, accidents and unexpected expenses, etc.
- Giving: I’ve found that I am much better at giving when I PLAN for it. Considering your income and personal expenses, figure out how much you’re willing and wanting to save. If it’s important to you, make sure you set up a system to make it happen.
- What are you most stressed about? (List 3-5 major financial stresses right now.) What can you do each week to make your financial situation more confident?
- What on your bank statement can you remove from your life?
Now, you could open this up to other themes depending on what your life looks like. Add in anything you want to focus on (kids, health, business, whatever), but essentially the reflection stays the same. You’re trying to get to the bottom of a few things and then collect data based on those areas.
I truly hope that you find this post beneficial! If you do end up printing it out or reflecting on your year by way of these questions PLEASE let me know either via comments on Instagram or by commenting on this blog post. I love seeing how you make this your own!
Brighton Your Day
Get exclusive content, sale items, and lots of fun stuff, straight to your inbox!
Join the Conversation
0 / View All