Self - January 11, 2019

10 Habits of Confident Women + How to Learn From Them

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Y’all know I’m a pretty big self-improvement nerd and am always looking for ways to grow and learn. Well, today that means sharing 10 habits of confident women. Before we dive in, I just want to say that these are not what defines a confident woman, just some of the habits she might practice on a daily basis. And with it being the start of a new year, I thought it could be fun to share some habits that we could all probably benefit from!

I also want to add that WE ARE ALL GOOD ENOUGH. But there’s always some room for improvement, right? So, I hope y’all find some value in this post and take something positive away from it. Here are 10 habits of confident women! P.S. If you’re looking for some of my personal tips on being more confident, you can head this way (after you read this post of course!).

They don’t over-apologize

This has been a habit I’ve been trying to break for FOREVER. It’s like every time something happens the first thing I want to say is “Sorry”. Don’t get me wrong, there is a time and a place for apologizing, but it shouldn’t be the first thing that comes to mind. Do y’all know what I mean? Challenge yourself to be hyper-aware of how many times a day you apologize for something and try to lessen it moving forward. At least unless you are actually sorry slash you screwed up (but chances are you’re saying it even when it’s not your fault/not necessary right??).

They know when to say no

I really tried to fully embrace this concept in 2018. In my early and mid-twenties, I thought it was the cool thing to always say yes to everything so I could be busy and please everyone. But now I place so much more value on only taking things on that really fit with my lifestyle and schedule. To be honest, I struggle with it a lot, but saying no kinda makes me feel like I have more control over my life and I want to hold onto that.

They aren’t afraid of being true to themselves

I think this is one that comes more with age. The older we get, the more we just feel comfortable in our own skin. But if you’re someone who has always been this way, props! I admire the women who TRULY do not care about conforming or can put their real selves out into the world without worrying about what’s “cool”. I definitely think I’ve grown in the last year when it comes to this, but still something to work on. See if you can read this article and get something from it – it’s actually one of my faves from last year and one I come back to (for myself) all. the. time.

They listen more than they speak

Have you ever met a confident woman who, after the conversation, you realize was way cooler and collected than you? Or almost makes you regret/question 45 things you said because you were blabbering? Same. Something I’ve always witnessed with successful and confident women is their ability to LISTEN. Without having to have a story about themselves or even being part of the conversation at all times. As women, I think a lot of the things we feel like we need to be heard, and while that’s true in many situations, there’s SO much power in listening/observing/learning. Try it! I am.

They take care of themselves

When I say this, I don’t just mean in the vanity way like staying fit (although eating well and moving your body is important, too). I mean more like, they know when they need rest and they give it to themselves. And here’s the kicker – they don’t feel bad about it! Knowing what you need to keep yourself healthy is SO important, but learning not to feel about it is even more so. This is where my buckets come in for me personally, and this self-care plan is super helpful!

They don’t need praise all the time

Praise always feels amazing, but confident women know when they knocked something out of the park. Whenever I worked really hard on a project and didn’t get a gold star for my time and effort, I used to take it so personally (oldest child perfectionist probs). As I’ve evolved and gotten older, though, I’ve learned to recognize my success on my own without needing validation from someone else to make me feel good. And BTW, The Happiness Project is a book that taught me SO much about gold stars and doing things for myself. If you struggle in this department, it might be a great read for you?

They aren’t afraid to try and fail

Let me be clear here, no one enjoys failure. But I think confident women aren’t afraid to seize an opportunity or try something new even when they know failure is possible. I don’t know about you, but if failure is anywhere in sight, I tend to err on the side of caution and play it safe. Aka I avoid doing the task and get really overwhelmed. This is something I really want to work in 2019 because I think taking calculated risks can have major payoffs (and not just the financial kind).

They aren’t afraid of being alone

This one can be interpreted several different ways, but I think my perspective on it is this: A confident woman doesn’t depend on anyone else – a husband, boyfriend, friends, family members, etc. – to feel content with herself. It can be easy to try to search for your happiness in other people (in both romantic relationships and friendships). Like you depend on those people or a certain person to bring you joy and contentment. But I think part of being confident is knowing you can do that all by yourself. :) Because you can!

They support other women

In a world where we hear the phrase “collaboration over competition” non-stop, how many of us women actually feel this way? Seriously?! I’m definitely guilty of the occasional moment of comparison and wanting to “win”. Learning to faithfully and honestly support other women instead of just saying we do will help us ALL go so much further.

They hold themselves accountable

One thing I’m really focusing on in 2019 is being more consistent with all the things I want to do better in my life. I’m kinda tired of being like, “oops, I didn’t even go on a walk today” and then just moving on like it’s no big deal. I want to hold myself accountable and a lot of that comes with staying focused while working. Fingers crossed this will be the year of accountability for me because I know it’s a trait a lot of confident women have.

What does being a confident woman mean to YOU? I’d love to hear from y’all in the comments!

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