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4 Signs It’s Time To Slow Your Roll

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I know I sound like a broken record, but it’s been way too easy to get overwhelmed these days. I think it was a month-long funk mixed with just feeling pretty blah about work (and life to be honest) for much of June and July. I know that sounds negative (I don’t mean to be – just being honest), but I also think that sometimes when we run ourselves too hard, we start to be a little irrational at times too. And even more so, we don’t see things in proper perspective. Instead, our worlds revolve around what WE need to do, how overwhelmed we feel, and then all this is exacerbated by feeling like we don’t have enough time to do any of it.

Between traveling for work, trying to do the whole workout thing, and spending time with friends, family, and my boyfriend, my to-do list, my computer, my bible, etc., my life feels pretty non-stop lately. And then when you throw in social media – where it seems like we’re expected to constantly be “on” – it just got to be a little too much for too long. Even though I was actually taking days off and even setting aside time for myself, I didn’t feel rested – I still don’t really (but I’m working on it). I could go on and on here, but I’ll cut it short (and spare you some time – ha!) so we can get into the actual meat of today’s blog post!

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Four Signs You Need To Slow Down

As many of y’all know, I’ve been trying to manage stress better lately. Becoming more mindful of when I do in fact have too much going on – and knowing what that looks and feels like – has been a huge part of managing my life lately. I started writing down *triggers* that tell me when I’m doing too much. Maybe it’ll be the same for you? After the trigger, I’m sharing what’s worked for me – after becoming aware of the fact that I need to slow down. And at the least, I think self-awareness is the first step to self improvement in general.

1. You’re not getting enough sleep

If you find you’ve been extra tired lately, ask yourself if you’ve been getting 7 to 9 hours of sleep a night, which is the recommended amount. I realized not too long ago that I was only getting 5 to 6 (eeeeek I know) – and I wondered why I was tired all the time! I might get in bed around 10, but I’d stay up working or doing other stuff on it for another few hours – which was cutting into my sleeping time.

I used to use my nights to finish up projects or any last minute to-dos, but after realizing I was short on sleep, I’ve made it a point to be in bed by a certain time each night and putting my phone on the other side of the room (I actually do this and it really helps!).

If you find you don’t have enough hours in your day to get things done and get a proper amount of sleep, it’s definitely a sign you need to slow down. Figure out a way to do less – if you can. Maybe be more realistic with what you can actually get done in a day and give yourself some grace too. Maybe you don’t need to work out EVERY single day – you know? Setting an alarm on my phone at night (to remind myself to start preparing my brain and body for bed) has been really helpful for me, so I’d suggest trying that out that start. Not having cable helps too.

2. You’re more forgetful

When you’re overwhelmed and overworked, it’s common to become more forgetful. If you think about it, it makes sense that you’d forget things more often when you have multiple different things running through your mind at all times. Multi-tasking is great when it comes to efficiency (which I’m all about), but it can actually lead to forgetfulness. And while on the topic, it’s actually been proven that multitasking isn’t even possible – at least not if we want to do all the things we’re trying to do at once WELL. But even still, I still try to beat the odds every single day (I’m addicted to multitasking lol)

If you notice you’re more forgetful lately, which I totally have, it’s probably a sign to slow down and start focusing on just one thing at a time. When you give your full attention to one thing at a time, you’ll be able to retain more and will be less forgetful. It’s a win-win if you think about it!

3. You forget to eat

When I forget to eat, I know it’s time for me to slow down. It’s not good for you to skip meals, and when I’m so busy that I don’t have time or forget to eat, I know I need to make a change – if anything, for my health. The biggest help for me here has been actually blocking off time on my calendar to eat my meals. I treat eating lunch like a meeting now – something I prioritize just as I would a client call. It’s not fair to my body to deprive it of food just because I’m busy! And I really enjoy taking time away from my work to eat lunch – it’s helped a lot with me slowing down and taking time to enjoy some moments to myself. And when I do get back to work, I feel refreshed and more energized – ready to tackle what’s in front of me as much as possible.

4. You’re extra irritable

When you’re constantly on the go and have an overwhelming to-do list, it’s easy to become extra irritable towards things that normally wouldn’t bug you. I know personally, when I get stressed I’m not as nice to people I’m close to – I feel like I’m shorter and just not in a the best mood overall (sorry mom, dad, boyfriend, everyone). But even more than just being irritable, I feel like when I’ve got too much going on, I’ve got less time for other people in general. And I HATE that. Instead, all my thoughts and efforts become pretty self-centered. It’s like I’m just trying to “get through the day” rather than actually living an abundant, fulfilling, and joyful life. When I feel overwhelmed, I’m more self-focused in general, which is something I don’t want to define my life. It feels great to be productive, but it’s not worth sacrificing the most important things in life.

If you find yourself being short towards people you’re close to – getting irritated with the littlest of things, –  convincing yourself you don’t have time for a quick phone call with your mom or coffee with an old friend, or centering every waking moment on only your needs, then it’s probably a sign you need to slow down. Try writing out a to-do list and coming up with an actionable plan to get things done – and doing what you can to prioritize that list. Because there will always be more to do – and there will always be things that feel and seem (and might actually be too) super urgent. But you don’t want the urgent things to overshadow the important things – you know?

Making the list (I did a whole post on how I do this – I call it a “brain dump”) and prioritizing it will help. Knowing you have everything written down and a plan in place to complete things will help you feel more in-control and enable you to slow down.

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What about you?

How do you know when it’s time to slow down and reprioritize how you’re spending your time?

Do y’all have triggers like mine? Do we share some? What are yours? I think this topic is so interesting, not to mention important, so I’d love to talk about it!

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On another note, I want to talk about this look I’m wearing in these photos. I actually partnered with PacSun for this post to introduce y’all to their denim line. If you’ve been following me for a bit, then you know that jeans are my everyday uniform – they’re my absolute favorite thing to wear (aside from leggings). What can I say, I’m just a casual girl and like to be comfortable (plus it helps that I work from home…).

Anyway, I’m always on the lookout for new denim brands. And you’ve probably noticed by now, that I like my fair share of investment pieces when it comes to jeans. But today, I’m excited to be partnering with PacSun to share these with y’all – they’re $54! And if you buy one pair from their website, you can get another pair 50% OFF – WHAT a deal. Y’all know I love me some high-waisted denim (that’s basically all I wear) and there are plenty of high-waisted options – like these I’m wearing in these photos! I found that they fit TTS – I’m wearing size 25 here and that’s what I wear in most denim brands. Speaking of their denim, I also have my eye on this pair – I love the wash and (of course!) the high-rise too. And then I’m wanting to try these white ones out too!

In addition to their denim, I love a lot of the brands they carry (especially for everyday casual and lounge wear). I’ve got my eye on a few back-in-stock pieces by ADIDAS, a few pieces by Calvin Klein (love those cropped tees for workout!), either a Tommy Hilfiger sweatshirt or oversized tee (#YASS), and gosh so much more! They have some really GOOOOD stuff!

Outfit Details: PacSun Avocado Toast T-shirt //PacSun High Rise Distressed Denim // Levi’s Denim Jacket // Adidas Superstar Sneakers

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49 Comments

  • Reply
    Bea
    August 16, 2017 at 3:53 pm

    I definitely need to bookmark this and keep a reminder to check it out every now! Great post and I love the look!

    https://beafreee.com/

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    Charlene
    August 10, 2017 at 8:05 pm

    Been feeling the same way lately. Trying to remind myself that I have a week left to stress about work and then my very first trip to Europe will feel so sweet. My biggest trigger is that I become extremely emotional. I’m more likely to cry or bite back when I’m spread too thin. I try and take 5 minutes alone in a room and just breathe. It helps slow everything down and makes me analyze why I’m emotional and if it’s a valid reason.

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    Hannah M
    August 10, 2017 at 4:31 pm

    Yes! You have such a way with words my friend. Focusing on getting more sleep and taking a minute to be mindful of what I’m feeling has been very helpful in my life. Even if it’s an hour yoga class or spin class to just get my mind off of whatever I’m thinking for an hour I’ve found to be very refreshing and re-energizing. Definetely need a little more time in the day for Him but, come on, don’t we all!? Anyway, love your content (as per usual) and love reading about your take on slowing our roll! As a loyal reader, I know you’re human and encourage you to take more time for yourself! Enjoy this life with tthose you love and you will enjoy your work even more! Sometimes it’s just small adjustments that help with this! I love that you recognize that and are able to share with us what you do! Thank you thank you thank you for doing what you do, for us! Xo

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    Maggie
    August 10, 2017 at 1:09 pm

    PREACH! so true! I love all the photography in all your blog posts. You always look so confident and relaxed. Maybe do a blog post on posing?? You seem to have all the tips! :) love what ya do. You’re such a beautiful role model both in your soul and on the outside. ❤️

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    Mariah Franzmann
    August 10, 2017 at 11:10 am

    Brighton! You’re spot on with this blog post. #4 is definitely a trigger for me. (My husband unfortunately knows that side a little too well). You are my favorite blogger, thanks for being real.

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    Stephanie Ferrari
    August 10, 2017 at 9:35 am

    Such a good reminder to slow down! I’m blessed because this summer has really given me some much-needed downtime, but during the school year life gets crazy for me! I experience all 4 of the symptoms you wrote about and I will have to re-read this again in a couple months to remind myself of the importance of slowing down. Thanks for sharing Brighton!

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    Katherine
    August 10, 2017 at 8:47 am

    So relatable! I’ve been in a funk for pretty much the entire summer as well. One of the things that I’ve noticed is that the amount of time I’m spending in the Word is positively correlated to the way that I’m feeling and even more so to the way that I treat those around me. When I’m not reading my Bible and spending time with the Lord, I’m not the gracious and loving person that I want to be, and I become so self-focused that I can’t even see when I’m being a jerk!
    Since noticing I’ve been in a funk the past couple of months, I’ve been more intentional about making time for a quiet time and I’ve ordered a couple of books that I’ve heard great things about: “The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands” by Lysa TerKeursk as well as “Fervent: A Woman’s Battle Plan to Serious, Specific and Strategic Prayer” by Priscilla Shirer. I’m excited to read these and honestly just ready to feel joyful and peaceful rather than irritable!
    Thank you for your vulnerability & honesty with us! Xx

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    Running_on_clean
    August 10, 2017 at 8:03 am

    Love your outfit! Your blog post is spot on and so great you can point it out and help others relate. I feel like everyone can get overwhelmed with their life and finding ways to handle it is key! I personally get irritable and forgetful! After having my third little boy last September, I have learned to say no. It is ok to say no to others…… this was huge for me. Like skipping a girls dinner IS OK and not signing up for my son’s preschool home room mom position IS OK! We have to do what is best for ourselves. Taking care of us so that our best light can shine for others! ;)

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    Britney Crawley
    August 10, 2017 at 7:48 am

    Like many others, I totally relate to this! I have always been a “yes” girl, saying yes to every opportunity. It’s been the story of my life to try to learn what I can actually balance and what things (and which people) I have to say no to. Once you get going, it’s hard to stop. People see you as the person who can do it all, and before you know it, you see yourself as that person too. Then it’s heartbreaking when you’re overwhelmed, sleep deprived, and empty and you need to back track and say no. I’ve learned that saying no to other people often means I’m saying yes to myself. That’s the way I have to look at it. No one can run on empty! Great post, Brighton! At least we’re all on this journey together. :)

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    Elizabeth
    August 10, 2017 at 7:32 am

    This was a great post! I can relate on so many levels!

    I was killing myself trying to get to the gym everyday and realized that even that was triggering me to not be happy, spend time with friends, etc. I was actually told at my last job that I had to take an hour lunch which initially I hated. But I would spend 30 min eating, no phone or connection to anything, just me and my thoughts. The last 30 minutes I would just go for a walk. It helped me just take a breath and slow down in that hour.

    Thanks again for a great post and for being real, honest, and open about your joys AND your struggles.

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    Kate Braccolino
    August 10, 2017 at 7:11 am

    Also, let’s be honest. That avacado toast shirt just screams Day Off!

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    Kate Braccolino
    August 10, 2017 at 7:10 am

    I am so 100% on all of these!! I totally need to put my phone down for a few hours each day and dedicate that time to something else. As bloggers ya’ll are expected to be “on” 24/7, I hope you and the others I follow feel free to disappear for a few days or even a week! You share almost your entire lives with us or at least dedicate a number of hours each day letting us get out of OUR world and delve into fun new makeup, skin care or haircare! You deserve the same! We’ll all still be here when you get back! But girl! Burnout just isn’t worth it!

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    Katie
    August 10, 2017 at 6:29 am

    Love this post. And totally relatable per usual. I’ve been there, and while “unplugging” and going to bed earlier makes a big difference (because who can really function at 100 when they’re sleep deprived 🤷🏻‍♀️) The thing that has made the biggest difference for me is waking up earlier and having intentional alone time. Quiet time with just myself, my coffees, and my devotional. I indulge in a whole hour of this every morning! I actually look forward to waking up early now, which is something this sleepyhead never would have imagined saying two years ago. Anyways, a thought. And I love what you said about working out! Every day is excessive. We need to be gentler with ourselves.

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    Ashley
    August 10, 2017 at 5:19 am

    This is so me right now. Working full time and trying to blog full time has really taken a toll on me. It’s always nice to hear I’m not the only one! PS. that shirt 🙌🏻🙌🏻
    http://www.neverbeenso.com

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    Natasha Larry
    August 10, 2017 at 2:14 am

    Your post was completely speaking to my last month or three actually. I have felt so overwhelmed and constantly exhausted and just trying to keep up with the little daily items while being taxed in multiple areas (e.g. Work, personal life). I have had the forgetfulness happening so often I start confusing myself. At work I’m going 100 mph but can’t seem to set boundaries. Its something I’m aware of and working on, but I know it won’t happen over night and in a career with always having a month-end or budget season there’s never a break. It’s all about how your managing time and setting boundaries… as I write this comment at 11 pm when I should be sleeping because tomorrow is my close day. :) Great post and perfect timing!

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      Brighton Keller
      August 21, 2017 at 3:54 am

      oh are you in audit?? gahhh. I know how you feel (even if you’re not). It can sometimes be IMPOSSIBLE to exercise self control – it KILLS me.

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    Kailey Payne
    August 10, 2017 at 1:07 am

    So this may sound too cliche but literally ALL of these are the same for me! Seriously, All. Of. Them. And I completely know what this is like because I’ve also been kinda in a funk Lately- so this really resonates with me! Thanks for sharing! ❤️

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    Cindy Burke
    August 10, 2017 at 12:51 am

    I can relate to this entirely right now, especially where you talked about balancing family, friends, boyfriend, work, fitness, to-do lists and somewhere in there finding the time for yourself. It seems like anytime I actually seem to squeeze in some “me time” it feels less like a break or moment to do something fun/calming/expressive and more of a time to just SIT STILL (and potentially do absolutely nothing) . . . which I have a nasty habit of feeling bad about later.

    And your four signs . . . check, check, check and check (as I sit here commenting at nearly 1AM after packing for a couple back-to-back trips)! The triggers are a good way to look at it. For me, I tend to lose sight of the positives during a funk and seem to focus on all the things that are going wrong or that I am just generally unhappy with. For that reason, I keep a gratitude journal at my night stand. I know this isn’t a new concept by any means, but I find it so helpful to reflect on the day’s events, even if it’s just jotting down a few things that made me happy that day. It puts things into perspective.

    I hope you enjoyed your coffee sitting down today! :P

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    Anonymous
    August 10, 2017 at 12:14 am

    This topic is totally relevant to everyone, but more so for the Type A, overachievers, who want it all gals (aka me). This is is one of two comments I’ve ever left on a blog. I felt compelled to thank you for being so honest with us and reminding us that bloggers are just regular people with similar struggles. The more I follow you the more I love you and everything you share. ❤

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    Chrissy Sessler
    August 10, 2017 at 12:08 am

    This was just so so good and absolutely hits home. I decided to take my kids on a walk tonight and realized how irritable I was with them and couldn’t figure out what my problem was but this just smacked me in the face and makes sense!!! All I kept thinking while reading this post is how it could have been written by me. Fits me to a T!! Thank you for this!! While we know we need to slow down, balance our life and treat our bodies right, it’s easy to get so wrapped up in the every day and fall into misery. Love some of your suggestions. I need all the help I can get! Xoxo

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    Julie Van Blaricom
    August 10, 2017 at 12:08 am

    I’ve been struggling with this lately too. I went part-time at my job for a few months and eventually just went independent (I’m now an independent travel agent). That’s been great–not having to work any certain hours, but it feels like all the hours are now filled up–like time is a vacuum and it’ll suck itself all up. Trying to figure it out myself–balance.

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    Ann Bonar
    August 9, 2017 at 11:42 pm

    Oh, this sooo hits home. It’s hard to put yourself first when you are wife, mother, teacher, and taking care of other people. I try to remember to “put my own oxygen mask on first” and tend to others but it doesn’t always work that way. 😕 The biggest issue I have is getting enough sleep – after everyone is in bed is the perfect time to do things around the house and going into work early means I get the copy machine to myself! 😉😂

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    Maisie
    August 9, 2017 at 11:40 pm

    LOVED this! I’ve been feeling the same way lately. And I tend to be a people pleaser so saying no to things and slowing down is not the easiest for me. It’s so nice to read this and realize it’s not just me. Thank you for being so open and honest- I’m definitely going to start being proactive in slowing down and living in the moment!

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    Annie
    August 9, 2017 at 11:21 pm

    YES YES YES. I’m sorry to the people who say that work stress and home stress can be separate because that just doesn’t work for me! I also notice things tend to snowball when I lose touch with my quiet time (even if I miss just one day). Starting everyday being encouraged by the truth of the Bible is crucial for me and my joy (and productivity). Thank you for humbling yourself for us in this post and always keeping it real!

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    Katelyn Barna
    August 9, 2017 at 11:16 pm

    This post sooo resonates with me!! I’m working my first full time job at an accounting firm (well, internship) and taking 2 summer classes online!! The second I notice I’m not sleeping enough or forgetting meals is when I realize I need to slow down! School starts back up in about 2 and a half weeks and I’m glad to know I need to take a few moments to really relax and take care of myself before school starts again. Love your tips, I’m definitely going to try the timer to start getting ready for bed (as I type this at 11:15pm lol)!!

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    chelsea catherine
    August 9, 2017 at 11:06 pm

    I absolutely relate to this! July was the absolute worst! I had to really reevaluate where I was and what I was doing – I definitely realized things had to change! So, here’s to august being a much better month, me getting my priorities a bit straighter and living in the moment. Happy Wednesday, Brighton!

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    Lauren
    August 9, 2017 at 10:45 pm

    Brighton, I love reading these types of posts from you! I find myself getting easily overwhelmed and have since I started college. It took me a really long time to recognize the signs of getting burnt out and overwhelmed and I have found that I have to take a break from whatever it is that I am working on that is triggering the anxiety. I also absolutely do NOT think you are being dramatic when you are saying you’re needing a break or that life is overwhelming you – that is real life and girl we just gotta own it when things aren’t easy breezy. I start my first “big girl” job next week and I am definitely feeling anxious about getting burnt out and overwhelmed by the stress of something completely new. Thank you for all of these things to look for and ways to help!

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    Lesley
    August 9, 2017 at 10:32 pm

    This is so great. Thank you for being vulnerable. All too often I find myself doing life 100mph, 24-7 all because then I can avoid “me” time. Time to be present. Deal with my flaws and insecurities.

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    bethany
    August 9, 2017 at 10:31 pm

    Love love love this post! (But I love everything you post honestly lol). I love how real and honest you are – it helps hearing that I’m not the only one who can get irritable/hangry/etc when I’m overdoing it! Also, YAS to to-do lists. Thanks for sharing! XO

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    Shelby
    August 9, 2017 at 10:26 pm

    Brighton–
    I am a new reader & I actually just randomly came across your Instagram about a week or two ago. This is my first time reading your blog & I’m hooked! First of all, I love your energy!! Your insta-stories are so cute & I love what you stand for and just who you are! Second of all, I am obsessed with your name. You should really thank your parents! So unique! I love this post about slowing down, I work night shift as a nurse and I constantly find myself pushing off sleep so I can live life during the day and get things done. It just gets to be too much sometimes. I am definitely going to use these tips and try to better myself FOR myself!

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    Troy
    August 9, 2017 at 10:25 pm

    The irritable thing is totally me! I get so moody when I’m too bogged down and especially when I’m not working out! Such a great post, Brighton, thank you for sharing!!

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    Miranda
    August 9, 2017 at 10:22 pm

    Girl, I am feeling this! I went through a pretty intense bout of depression the past few months, and as I’m slowing getting on the other side of it, I’m seeing there are a lot of things I am doing that do not help my mental state. One example: multi tasking! Rather than watch the TV episode and fold my laundry at the same time, why don’t I just focus on the laundry so it’s a) done faster and b) I can actually enjoy the show? (If you’re into studies on productivity and the like, I’ve read a few articles about the typical 9:00/5:00 work day and how its effectivness is changing in our society. Really interesting stuff!)

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    Lauren
    August 9, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    Love what you said about making a list and checking it off throughout the day. I seem to have some many i things to do that I end up forgetting the most important one! Great advice!

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    Stephanie
    August 9, 2017 at 10:15 pm

    It’s so hard in today’s day and age to keep up with our jobs, social media, friends and family, and me-time! Loved this post. I find that waking up and going to the gym first thing (okay maybe after a cup of coffee) allows me to have some me-time before my day gets too crazy with work, errands, etc. My boyfriend also kindly urges me to get off my phone/social media at night and be more present, so if you can get someone to remind of you that even when you don’t want to hear it! I think I check my phone/instagram out of habit so much and I want to work on being more present. Thanks for the post, Brighton!

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      Brighton Keller
      August 21, 2017 at 2:12 am

      I’m totally with you! I responded to a comment above about that – about how social media consumption makes SUCH a huge difference. Wait, quick quesiton. do you get an email that notifies you of my response??

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    Megan
    August 9, 2017 at 10:14 pm

    I definitely can relate in the forgetful and easily irritable categories when I need to “slow my role.” The one thing I can probably work on more is not getting so frustrated with little things/people when I am overwhelmed. I am a huge list maker though so even if I forget something I can just check my list and remember!

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    Anonymous
    August 9, 2017 at 10:13 pm

    Wow I related to so much of this. Especially the line, “just trying to get through the day,” rather than live in/enjoy it. It’s sad to say, but the honest situation I find myself in all the time. I’ll def keep note of these triggers and the solutions to fix them. And I’ll see if I can identify anymore in my own life.

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    Ashley
    August 9, 2017 at 10:07 pm

    All. Of. These. My life. The forgetfulness is real. So nice to know I’m not alone in feeling like it’s impossible to slow everything down!

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      Brighton Keller
      August 21, 2017 at 2:10 am

      I know girl. Sorry for the late response. But I did want to say that I’m totally with you. and quite frankly, I’m not doing the best job with taking my own advice lol. I feel like I should try to do another blog post in a few weeks that’s got more practical tips on how to ACTUALLY slow down, do less, and pursue a simpler life.

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    Andie
    August 9, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    Sooooooooooo important. Not enough people talk about this! Thank you!

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    Sarah Chang
    August 9, 2017 at 10:02 pm

    This blog post is so relatable !

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    Molly Moran
    August 9, 2017 at 8:31 am

    This post was so genuine, and it resonated with me a lot!! Thank you for making me self reflect and realize that I need to take a bit of a break! I can tell I need to slow my roll when I start to lose passion for things and they seem more like work than fun, and when I’m tired and my mood gets more down. Im going to take some me time and reset so I can back and tackle things more efficiently than ever!! Thank you for being so amazing, stylish, and positive! Xoxo Molly

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    Emily Denise
    August 9, 2017 at 8:15 am

    I love that you talk about the real stuff, Brighton! I was nodding my head while reading this entire post. Blogging is the ultimate multi-tasking hobby/career and I often feel completely overwhelmed in my day to day tasks. Social media doesn’t help your mental health at all, like you mentioned when you said you feel like you have to be constantly “on”, and I think the comparison game has really taken a toll on me, my energy, and my creativity over-time. I’m on a journey to be more self-aware and recognize when I need to step away from everything for a little while, but would love to hear more on this topic as you figure out what works well for you.

    Xo, Emily
    Epicurean Emily

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      Brighton Keller
      August 21, 2017 at 2:09 am

      honestly – I think a big thing for me is my social media consumption time. I’ve started to really hold myself accountable and try SO HARD not to mindlessly scroll through instagram or watch stories. Because it becomes a habit. something I do when I have nothing to do and then before I know it, my mind is filled with negative thoughts that I totally could have avoided. Or I could have spent that time praying or reading or even just BEING PRESENT. This small change has already made a big difference for me. If someone makes you feel less than, UNFOLLOW. I’ve been being very harsh with this lately and it has made a big difference.

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    Alexis deZayas
    August 9, 2017 at 8:07 am

    I need this whole outfit :) I can totally tell a difference in my mood when I’m getting enough sleep or not!!

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    Kendal
    August 9, 2017 at 8:02 am

    First off, I love that avocado toast top!! These are definitely good signs and things I look for myself when I’m super busy!

    Kendal // Life With Kendal

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    Anonymous
    August 9, 2017 at 7:22 am

    Ohmigoshhhh. YES. To all of this. I’ve actually been SO overwhelmed lately. I got married three and a half weeks ago and trying to get organized and unpack from all that has been a mess and taken weeks, and we’re still not done! I made a BIG to do list last week (one of your brain dumps!) and have been slowly assigning those tasks to myself in my planner over a few weeks. As someone who wants to cross #allthethings off their to do list as soon as the list is written it’s been really hard to slow down- and I think that’s what plays into the being irritable. I’ve also noticed that one of my triggers is when my space isn’t clean/organized. Like if there are dishes in the sink, or I know the laundry is piling up, I get kind of short and snappy with my husband. Doing some deep cleaning is actually on my list of things to do! haha It’s so hard though, because I WANT to do it all. I want to go to Barre everyday, and eat healthy, and read, and spend time with my husband, and cook dinner, and see my friends, and build my business and get enough sleep but sometimes there just isn’t enough time for all of it. Being patient is really hard for me, not crossing things off my list is hard, and sometimes, even though I know I need to just relax and read a book, I feel almost like a failure for not doing something more productive. It’s all very much a work in progress at this point. The sleep thing is hard for me too, because I think “well if I stay up later and get up earlier then I’ll have more time in the day to do all those things” but then it makes you irritable and snappy and you get run down, what a vicious cycle. And I’m actually missing a really important document at this point and forgot where I put it originally and that makes me irritable too. See? Organizing! Everything in it’s place! haha I feel like I’ve been rambling, but also feel like you might be my spirit animal so you’ll understand. Outfit posts are wonderful, I looove your style, but posts like these are so relatable and always seem to come at the best time for me!

    I also love this outfit! My goal is basically to work for myself so I can wear ripped jeans to work everyday :)

    Thanks for sharing Brighton!

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      Melissa Klusek
      August 9, 2017 at 7:23 am

      And I just realized I didn’t even put my name. Already the most Monday Wednesday ever! haha

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    Rena
    August 9, 2017 at 5:57 am

    I think you are really right – we should really take care ouf ourselves in such cases! Very cool look!
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
    http://www.dressedwithsoul.com

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